I read this poem on a friends blog and had to share it. Enjoy!!
If I Had My Child to Raise Over Again
If I had my child to raise all over again,
I'd finger paint more, and point the finger less.
I'd do less correcting, and more connecting.
I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less, and know to care more.
I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.
I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.
I'd do more hugging and less tugging.
I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.
I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I'd teach less about the love of power,
And more about the power of love.
By Diana Loomans
Monday, March 22, 2010
Sunday, March 14, 2010
Feeling it
Well I had a wonderful 34th birthday with Pete, our family and friends. He surprised me with a very relaxing evening at a Bed & Breakfast with a huge jet tub (which I was in for the majority of our stay). It was a memorable day.
After my birthday, I became even more excited about meeting our baby. I've been having crazy, wonderful, beautiful dreams. And those "nesting" feelings that you hear about that mothers get before the baby comes...well I've been having those too. I really feel like my life is about to change drastically.....in a good yet very exhausting way. ;)
I believe God's plan for us to be parents is just around the corner.
Something is definitely in the air...........
After my birthday, I became even more excited about meeting our baby. I've been having crazy, wonderful, beautiful dreams. And those "nesting" feelings that you hear about that mothers get before the baby comes...well I've been having those too. I really feel like my life is about to change drastically.....in a good yet very exhausting way. ;)
I believe God's plan for us to be parents is just around the corner.
Something is definitely in the air...........
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
One year
Well it's been 1 year since we started this process and what a year it has been. I've had friends become pregnant and give birth, we've had a few possibilities of meeting birthmoms that didn't feel right and we've bought a very cute baby car seat!! I am not getting impatient, I am becoming more excited about becoming a mother.
Pete and I recently returned from a wonderful trip to Thailand and I met a local women who told me I would have a child........very soon. She actually said to me that my 34th birthday would be a great day and this coming year would be my best. Interesting........I'll let you know what happens next month after I turn 34.
Pete and I recently returned from a wonderful trip to Thailand and I met a local women who told me I would have a child........very soon. She actually said to me that my 34th birthday would be a great day and this coming year would be my best. Interesting........I'll let you know what happens next month after I turn 34.
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Watching the movie Juno is both theraputic and torture
Okay, so some might say how lame I am for sitting inside on a beautiful autumn afternoon watching a movie but I would say to those people.........back off it's therapy.
Actually, the movie Juno is quite good. For those of you who haven't viewed it, the story line is about a 16-year old droll and witty girl who becomes pregnant and decides to place her child for adoption. I love her character and the movie is both humorous and sad but the best part for me is about her experience and seeing how wonderful adoption is and how amazing the human spirit is. I, of course, cry the entire last 45 minutes of the film and find myself not being able to breath during the last 20. Yes, this is a movie but at the same time it is quite the reality.
Someday I will meet a birth mom who will choose us and who will trust us to be the strongest and most loving parents for her child..........and although confident, she will be sad to let her child go.
Sometimes I have to remind myself that this process isn't only about Pete and I starting a family. It is about a women who is letting her family go. She is making a decision to let someone else raise and care for her baby.
She is giving us the greatest gift, a gift that we can only repay her by making sure this child is loved and cared for every day of its life and for this child to know what a sacrifice his/her mom made by allowing someone else to love and raise it. It's easy for me to know how Pete and I feel about this child but I want her to know how much this child is loved. And how greatful we are for what she has done and how I wish, more than anything, that she finds peace and comfort through this whole process.
Juno is certainly a movie that all can enjoy, not only people engulfed in the adoption/pregnancy process. It's funny, witty and has great music but........... the torturous part is knowing I've sat inside on a beautifully, sunny October afternoon to watch a movie I've seen at least 5 times.
Oh and by the way, this photo is real...you won't find any fake forest backgrounds in my adoption ad pictures.
Actually, the movie Juno is quite good. For those of you who haven't viewed it, the story line is about a 16-year old droll and witty girl who becomes pregnant and decides to place her child for adoption. I love her character and the movie is both humorous and sad but the best part for me is about her experience and seeing how wonderful adoption is and how amazing the human spirit is. I, of course, cry the entire last 45 minutes of the film and find myself not being able to breath during the last 20. Yes, this is a movie but at the same time it is quite the reality.
Someday I will meet a birth mom who will choose us and who will trust us to be the strongest and most loving parents for her child..........and although confident, she will be sad to let her child go.
Sometimes I have to remind myself that this process isn't only about Pete and I starting a family. It is about a women who is letting her family go. She is making a decision to let someone else raise and care for her baby.
She is giving us the greatest gift, a gift that we can only repay her by making sure this child is loved and cared for every day of its life and for this child to know what a sacrifice his/her mom made by allowing someone else to love and raise it. It's easy for me to know how Pete and I feel about this child but I want her to know how much this child is loved. And how greatful we are for what she has done and how I wish, more than anything, that she finds peace and comfort through this whole process.
Juno is certainly a movie that all can enjoy, not only people engulfed in the adoption/pregnancy process. It's funny, witty and has great music but........... the torturous part is knowing I've sat inside on a beautifully, sunny October afternoon to watch a movie I've seen at least 5 times.
Oh and by the way, this photo is real...you won't find any fake forest backgrounds in my adoption ad pictures.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
Telling the world......
We just finished all of the ads for the Little Nickel's in the region and are hoping someone out there reads our ad and wants to meet us. Keep your fingers crossed!!!
Monday, June 8, 2009
Parent Cravings.......
People are funny and what they 'crave' is funny too. Some people crave treats like ice cream and donuts, some people crave traveling and can't wait to buy their next plane ticket. I crave being a parent.
When I was younger, not that I'm old, I would imagine myself as a parent and I would crave these images. The images would be of me making my kids peanut butter and jelly sandwiches (even though I can't stand the smell of peanut butter)because they loved them. These images would be of me waking up at night in the middle of a great dream to change my child's sheets because she had just wet the bed and was standing next to my bed crying. The images would be of me playing with my children in our house on a cold, rainy day though I had a ton of housework to do. Or sometimes they were as simple as driving my child to school and making sure he didn't forget his backpack in the car before I drove away. Sometimes the images would be of me watching my child grow up and laying awake at night wondering if I had done everything in my power to provide this person with a solid sense of self.
What's interesting is that all of the image I had were always about sacrifice and taking care of my child. I know to be a good parent is totally about sacrificing yourself for your child when they are young, but I think kids need their parents to sacrifice all the way from infancy, toddler, teen and into adulthood. Now don't get me wrong, of course you have to let your child become a responsible adult and take care of themself, but parenting never stops and doing things for your children never stops either.
I'm 33 years old and my dad is still doing things for me, like mowing my lawn...only because he wants to do those things for me. He even takes care of my friends who's parents are not around. He always has taken care of my sisters and our friends. I'm sure this is why I always had the images of sacrifice because that is what my parents did for me.
My craving to be a parent is selfish or possibly selfless.......I'm not really sure but I do know I want to 'take care' of my children forever.
When I was younger, not that I'm old, I would imagine myself as a parent and I would crave these images. The images would be of me making my kids peanut butter and jelly sandwiches (even though I can't stand the smell of peanut butter)because they loved them. These images would be of me waking up at night in the middle of a great dream to change my child's sheets because she had just wet the bed and was standing next to my bed crying. The images would be of me playing with my children in our house on a cold, rainy day though I had a ton of housework to do. Or sometimes they were as simple as driving my child to school and making sure he didn't forget his backpack in the car before I drove away. Sometimes the images would be of me watching my child grow up and laying awake at night wondering if I had done everything in my power to provide this person with a solid sense of self.
What's interesting is that all of the image I had were always about sacrifice and taking care of my child. I know to be a good parent is totally about sacrificing yourself for your child when they are young, but I think kids need their parents to sacrifice all the way from infancy, toddler, teen and into adulthood. Now don't get me wrong, of course you have to let your child become a responsible adult and take care of themself, but parenting never stops and doing things for your children never stops either.
I'm 33 years old and my dad is still doing things for me, like mowing my lawn...only because he wants to do those things for me. He even takes care of my friends who's parents are not around. He always has taken care of my sisters and our friends. I'm sure this is why I always had the images of sacrifice because that is what my parents did for me.
My craving to be a parent is selfish or possibly selfless.......I'm not really sure but I do know I want to 'take care' of my children forever.
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Patience
If there is one thing I have learned in the past 5+ years of waiting to become a parent it is patience.....I keep telling myself we will be parents soon, hopefully very soon. I have always had a feeling that our child would be born in July.... and maybe it is because in my family, we have a birthday for every month of the year except July. Or maybe it is because July is just 3 months away and I don't want to wait anymore....regardless of the reason, I will be patient and know God will give us the perfect child that we are suppose to love and raise (but maybe He can do it sooner than later) :) Patience.....just a little patience.
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